tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post487889894882303774..comments2024-01-25T12:15:23.886+00:00Comments on aaru tuesday: circular firing squad: set lasers to 'snark'.thenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11851538869806389235noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-80781668479921457152008-08-31T19:23:00.000+01:002008-08-31T19:23:00.000+01:00some interesting person suggested girl-children ta...some interesting person suggested girl-children taking their mother's surname and boy-children taking their father's surname.Norahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10497868508410383590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-87765285458860163802007-12-26T11:26:00.000+00:002007-12-26T11:26:00.000+00:00Oops! And here's the link:http://commentisfree.gua...Oops! And here's the link:<BR/>http://commentisfree.guardian.co.uk/abby_oreilly/2007/11/taken_in_vain.htmlvertehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07568745576713009205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-15589353961149330682007-12-26T11:25:00.000+00:002007-12-26T11:25:00.000+00:00Did you see that f-word blogger getting lynched ov...Did you see that f-word blogger getting lynched over on CiF for the surname debate?vertehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07568745576713009205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-55308475942813335412007-12-24T20:19:00.000+00:002007-12-24T20:19:00.000+00:00I had the same idea about other family surnames - ...I had the same idea about other family surnames - Longworth might've been nice, or Farquhar - but hit the same mental wall, in that all those names were from some husband or father. That said, many names aren't inherently gendered - names taken from places or professions, for instance. And yes, flower child names! I knew an 'Ashencarne' family once. They'd changed it from something far less thenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11851538869806389235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-62757824505845386472007-12-24T19:53:00.000+00:002007-12-24T19:53:00.000+00:00I do not like my father, or the way he treated my ...I do not like my father, or the way he treated my mother. Why should I be *forced* to keep his name? It seems <I>a feminist</I> would understand that. <BR/><BR/>In a patriarchy, you have one man's name or another's. Why can't I choose the name of the man I like best? <BR/><BR/>I've considered taking one of the random surnames from my family (I like the Irish surname O'Faolin best)-- but Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354486841414802245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-39833567403735015172007-12-24T17:01:00.000+00:002007-12-24T17:01:00.000+00:00"why does my father's name represent all the bad t...<I>"why does my father's name represent all the bad things about him, but MY name (that happens to be the same as his) can't represent the good things I want to do in the world?"</I><BR/><BR/>I guess my answer there is 'because surnames are still patriarchy whether you like them or not'. The fact that you share your father's original surname rather than your mother's is patriarchy in its most thenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11851538869806389235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-65209591678636136822007-12-23T15:02:00.000+00:002007-12-23T15:02:00.000+00:00Thanks for the shout-out. To clarify: I have no pr...Thanks for the shout-out. <BR/><BR/>To clarify: I have no problem with anyone changing their name for whatever reason. I think all people should have names that they feel represents them (hence my random changing, both first and last, throughout my life). I CERTAINLY don't disagree with someone changing their name to distance themselves from a family that was never 'family' in the first place (Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-43739091645911979482007-12-23T01:52:00.000+00:002007-12-23T01:52:00.000+00:00I confess, I am disconcerted by the idea of people...I confess, I am disconcerted by the idea of people my age having parents; I'm not even sure what a 'mother' does for someone over the age of 12 - when people way older than me still have parents kicking around it's like something is going on that I don't know how to translate.<BR/><BR/>That Thai story's interesting, and chimes a bit with me - mostly just because it's me who's moving, for now at thenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11851538869806389235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3310141367986647635.post-92133764467771876632007-12-22T12:48:00.000+00:002007-12-22T12:48:00.000+00:00Sorry to hear you had to grow up without a mother ...Sorry to hear you had to grow up without a mother - you can have mine if you want, she is a pain in the arse! The naming thing is odd isn't it? I was engaged to a Thai woman once and when we discussed names for children, it became quite clear that my name would have been the Western name but if we lived in Thailand her name would be more used. Her surname was quite highly regarded and most Thais Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01388697157749171410noreply@blogger.com